Often when a major level of awakening takes place it is so amazing the
person thinks it is complete. Sometimes it is, but mostly there are
subtleties' to be accommodated.

Someone I know has had such an awakening.
It is so awesome they think it is complete.
They have had the major realisation of how complaint poisons -
their own lives, and those around them. So they no longer complain.
They are elated at the difference in their lives. Wonderful.

What they are not yet seeing are the subtleties'.
When they speak of an event, although there are no major complaints, there
are still a subtle judgements. The judgments are so subtle they are almost
indefinable - yet they still contaminate.

They speak of one person who they do not want to be around - because they
only talk about themselves - in great detail, yet another person who does
almost the same thing, they accept. Mostly, our opinions about other people
have more to do with ourselves than the other person.

The difference between rejection and acceptance has to do with the person
having the opinion. Usually we judge a person most who behaves like a part
of ourselves we are not yet accepting in ourselves.

What is not so easy to comprehend is that - everything we think we are
seeing 'out there' is a projection of ourselves. We are not seeing clearly
what may be out there, we are actually seeing a projection that is based on
our opinion.

When a certain level of awakening has happened all judgment dissolves. Gone.
Although your acceptance may now be unconditional, you may still choose not
to be around a certain person - because their behaviour is not fun for you.
Most self-cantered people are like a tornado - they are so totally involved
in themselves they drag out energy from everyone and everything around.
Not so much fun to be around.

When a certain level has awakened, love is always foremost.
You may, because of their unpleasant behaviour, never need, or even want to
see a certain person again, yet love will always be foremost when you think
about them. And that can change in a moment.

Here is how you can tell about your level of acceptance.
If you are around a person who is grossly self-cantered, and you contract,
you are 'not there yet.' If you are around that person and although you do
not enjoy their behaviour, yet there is no contraction, and you feel for the
person, you have realised a deep level of awakening.

Here is an interesting thing you can play with.
See if you can get some people you know to give you a genuine appraisal of
how they see you. If you can get some people who do not like you to do the
same, better still.

What you will find is that, even if it is subtle, everyone has a different
opinion. Everyone sees you differently.
So is what they are seeing more to do with you - or them?
Usually, even if their opinion is mostly projection, there is  something for
you to consider about yourself.

Then, see how you feel about yourself, and whatever, don't take it
seriously.