There is a 'state' of inner/outer fulfilment/contentment/peace/....
It is not describable by, or to, a 'mind.'
The Tao; The Hidden Harmony; It; The Peace that Passeth All Understanding;
The Kingdom of God; Time No More; Not this, Not That; Nirvana/Moksha;
As a Little child.

Under certain circumstances, like the Satori group, and also other
situations, quite a few people enter into this state for a brief period.
Sometimes as long as three weeks, but not so many live permanently in this
realization.

When in the state everything else seems irrelevant, superficial.
When dropping back and being 'normal' it is a shock - and the state starts
to seem like a dream - although it is never forgotten, and always desired.

The state is most likely realized in a moment of complete acceptance/being
with. No conflict or desire of any sort.
Some people then make this state a goal - which becomes a desire, and thus
creates a barrier to entering into the state again.

(Technicality: We are in the state all the time. It is: The Only State.
That is one of the reasons it has been called: Realization.)

If we were born into a Sufi family where the parents live in this state we
would most likely live in the state ourselves and consider it normal.
(Trouble with that scenario is, people who are in that state are almost
certain not to have children.)

One of the things that is in the way of us living in The State, is sex.
Sex, as we know it is a very basic level. And on this basic level it is all
anything is about - reproduction and expansion of the species.
All species - including the bacteria and the viruses we fight.

Until we are really old, sex keeps us restless - unless we are sexually
unfulfilled, as most people are - then it keeps us restless right up until
death!

One of the reasons we are sexually unfulfilled, and thus not living in deep
peace, is our religions. Religions, in this way, can be seen as a curse.
In many other ways as well.

Religion creates an artificial barrier to our sexual unfolding - so we get
frustrated, and at one level we remain guilty for the rest of our lives.
Sex is there in our consciousness all of the time.
Some times more to the front, and sometimes less so.

So with all this going on we are expecting to be at peace with ourselves?
No way. On some level sex influences everything we do, and everything we
think. That is why advertisers use it so much, and religions condemn it.
In relationships it is always an issue. Our natural state is to share.
Religion orders/threatens us not to.

So we have elevated sex into a 'special' bracket. That is our way of
attempting to bypass the guilt built into us from our youth.
Sex is not special. It is just our natural instincts wanting to do their
job. It is not special. What we feel are just chemicals - stimulating the
pleasure centre in our brain - so we keep doing it - and doing it - and
doing it.

And, although rare (especially in men) there is another aspect possible.
It is very rare for two people to meet in honesty - we are always presenting
the behavioural patters we have developed in our childhood - to get
approval, and thus keep out of trouble. So, except in an emergency, most
people are not real - to themselves even, let alone another person.

But in an intimate physical contact there is another possibility - to show
ourselves, and meet the other person in honesty - without our shields.

That body/machine/robot you are living in has built-in programs.
You were born with many of the programs, and more have been added through
programming/conditioning. If you didn't have these built-in programs then
in certain circumstances you would forget to breath, or digest.

Unless you are very aware, unconditionally, in each moment, these programs
will run you and your life. If you are not fully aware, you are a robot.

We only have the physical body in order to experience this physical
dimension. To let the physical run your life is silly.

So, on some level, sex is always there.
With awareness it can be fun.
Without awareness you are a slave - to your basic instincts.

With awareness this dimension is a great adventure.
Without awareness of who you really are this dimension can be very
uncomfortable. Very. And with awareness, discomfort can be fun as well.
Are you not more alive in an emergency? Don't you learn more through what
you call mistakes? Life is for living; experiencing.

Of course there is a lot more to this subject.
Happy adventures...

Sending love...